For anyone in the middle of a divorce; know that you’re not alone — no matter how alone you may feel.
Divorce is tough, it throws us into a period of transition that we never truly asked for. Yes, we all had a hand in the decision to investigate divorce… however I don’t think anyone had it in mind as they walked down the aisle.
Divorce is tough for a few reasons, the first one being that it made me feel like a failure. I’d presented myself to the world in the way that appeared as though I was “put together”. Regardless of the circumstances that unraveled to bring about a divorce, all divorced individuals struggle with the thought that they have failed – which can be a tough pill to swallow.
Divorce also made me question everything I knew to be true in life:
:What love felt like
::What respect felt like
::What friendship felt like
::What safety felt like
Regardless if you divorce after 1 year or 30 years, you’ve invested your heart at one point or another in another person. When those feelings and emotions shift, it makes you start to question what else you may have been “wrong” about. It’s a vicious cycle of second-guessing yourself — until you realize that you may have actually learned something about yourself along the journey.
As tough as the transition and resistance toward change was; the one thing I learned was that we often come out better on the other side, the side of the transition where we start to understand what our new sense of normal is… and we’re actually okay with it.
I didn’t tell many people about my divorce (especially those I worked with) until it was nearly finalized. The process took 10 months, which is a “cake walk” in many cases.
But it came with a price. The mental and emotional strain was overwhelming on most days.
For 10 months I went to work with a smile on my face — but with stress, chaos, sadness and pain within.
This should be a reminder that YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT BATTLE THE PERSON IN THE OFFICE NEXT TO YOU IS FIGHTING.
All you need to know is how you want to make them feel — Choose love, choose patience.
For anyone who recently or currently has had to deal with divorce, know that you are not alone. If you need more help transitioning through divorce, send the Get Good coaches an email via our Contact page or sign up to attend our virtual “Uncovering You” MASTERCLASS.
We can relate to divorce, as we’ve both experienced it. Allow us to offer empathy to your situation and help you come out the other side knowing more about your authentic self.